Just wondering if you have a monkey on your back? I’m sure somewhere along the way you collected one or two (or more) monkey’s and they’ve kind of stuck with you, whether you like them or not. Well let me tell you that we are all collectors of monkeys.
It all starts when we’re born; our parents talk to us and tell us their views on the world, on us, their opinion of what’s right and wrong, a belief that they may have about something. So we see the world as being true through their eyes when we’re children. We then make friends and have relationships and they also share their thoughts, beliefs, values and rules about themselves, about us and also the world. And often somewhere along the way, we start taking on their monkeys, “This is what I think of you”, “This is my opinion on what you should do with your life”…and before you know it, you have all these monkeys that don’t belong to you!
Have you ever believed what someone has said about you, to you? Well what if that wasn’t true? What if all they were doing was projecting their dreams, their values, rules, opinions and beliefs about something onto us? What if they were giving us a monkey? Well they probably are! Though as we grow and cognitively mature, we can now start to decide if we want to take on their monkey. To question whether their monkey is good for us in our world. Whether their perceptions are something that helps us to become more or is it taking something away?
Well I’m here to tell you that we have taken on so many monkeys in our lifetime and we’ll probably take on many many more. Though I want you to question if someone else’s monkey is right of you. If it’s great, take the monkey on and incorporate it into your world views, though if its not…give it back!!
We all think we’re doing the right thing, though what is the right thing by us? Or what is right for my monkey? It’s easy to get enmeshed into others worlds, though its important to make sure we step back and have a look at ours and decide appropriately about what’s good for us, not for someone else.
On a side note, we can share our monkeys and it is completely up to the other person if they want to take it on or not. We can support others without needing to carry their monkey. At the end of the day, we are all responsible for our own monkey, but what does yours need to look like to make sure its nurtured properly?
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