Forgiveness is the action or process of forgiving or being forgiven. Though its not always easy to forgive someone and very possibly harder to forgive ourselves. It’s all well and good for someone to say, Well you need to forgive them or just let go and move on. Forgiveness doesn’t always feel easy.
Though there are many benefits to forgiveness and it has been associated with reducing and lowering stress and depression within the body. It has been connected to increased levels of life satisfaction and also increased feelings of wellbeing. One study has also found that trait forgiveness is linked to experiencing better relationships with others.
A few years ago, I came across a Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness call Ho’oponopono. The word when translated into English means correction. Yet in the Hawaiian dictionary it is defined as: (a) to put right, correct, adjust, amend, rectify, tidy up, edit, to make ready; and (b) mental cleansing. Ho’oponopono is a profound gift which allows us to expand our relationship with ourselves and others asking that our errors in though, deed, word and behavior be cleansed.
Ho’oponopono is centered around four key phrases. Phrases which are often the hardest to say. It takes us into a place of ownership and allows us to open up our hearts for healing to take place. The four phrases are:
Step 1: I’m Sorry (repentance).
Saying sorry is never easy and can often be associated with pain. You can just say, I’m sorry, or you can be more specific and state what you’re sorry before you state the above phrase.
Step 2: Please forgive me (Ask forgiveness)
Step 3: Thank you (gratitude)
Thank who ever it is you need forgiveness from - yourself, someone else, your body, the Universe, God.
Step 4: I love you (love)
Again say it to which you are forgiving – yourself, your body, God, your challenges.
The four phrases can be said in any order and the beauty of it is its simplicity. It creates a meditative effect with a mindfulness approach allowing us to remove our ego and to move into our heart.
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Life doesn’t always show up how we would like it to and sometimes it can be difficult to find our way through the tough times. Though the one thing that can make a difference is developing some resilience.
So what is resilience? Well a lack of resilience is when we are struggling to overcome our challenges and we feel like we can’t get back into that more helpful or optimistic mindset. So resilience is feeling like we are able to bounce back even stronger, particularly when life knocks you down. Through our resilience, we are able to find our ability to adapt better to adversity.
Imagine your level of resilience like a tree trunk, the wider the tree trunk the greater the resilience and the smaller the tree trunk then the less we have.
Just because we may be more resilient to challenges or tragedy, doesn’t mean that we don’t experience emotional distress or pain. In fact our journey to resilience may actually include emotional distress.
There are a number of contributing factors that helps build resilience such as:
We all develop resilience that works for us and such our path to this is very different. Though there are a number of similar approaches that we can all take to building this up.
If we can take these simple steps to creating resilience and personalize them for ourselves, the stronger and more flexible we come in facing life’s challenges.
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Yes here we are again with the silly season already underway, this is also a great time to be celebrating and appreciating all the good things in our lives today. This time of year might be a great reminder, though what would life be like if you had that level of appreciation all year round?
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” – Oprah Winfrey.
What if by appreciating more, you attract more in to be grateful for? Where our focus goes our energy flows, so the more we cultivate this sense of gratitude, we not only increase our own sense of joy and contentment, we naturally attract more that we are grateful for in the process, regardless of what we do or don’t have.
We are conditioned to focus more on what we don’t have, though by practicing gratitude daily, we can rewire our brain to experience and see more of what we do have.
Here are some simple ways to start cultivating an attitude for gratitude these holidays:
Have a safe and joyful Christmas.